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Often times, we feel that we are alone and depressed even if we know that physically we are surrounded by so many people around us. Sometimes we ask ourselves these questions: What is wrong with people? Why can’t they understand me? Why is it that it’s always me that they see? Why can’t I do anything right? Why am I angry all the time? Why do I feel trap like a genie in a bottle? If you feel these then it’s time to embark in the long journey of “Inner healing.”

According to an article from Walking-Wounded.Net, “this inner pain people feel might have developed due to negative life experiences. These experiences vary. It might have been formed from a certain kind of abuse ( physically, emotionally or sexually), trauma and other damage causing incidents.” Personally, people often call themselves victims. This is inherent to us humans. We often blame others for our misfortunes. Wallow in self-pity. Drown ourselves with negative thoughts. In order for us to heal completely, we have to change our perception and the feeling of being victims. Instead we should give ourselves the power, hence, calling ourselves SURVIVORS. And as survivors we can rebuild and transform our lives.

So what do you have to do to achieve “Inner healing?” This article is not the ultimate guide to “inner healing.” This will serve as a way to discover how to go through this long journey. There is no instant remedy to self-healing. Even if you pay people to help you . They will only help you search the why’s and how’s but even if the how’s are recommended, it will be useless if there is no self-acceptance.

Acknowledging that something needs to change is first. Denying how you feel and covering it up worsens it. In some cases, emotions are even coupled with psychological and physiological aspects. One becomes explosive and violent. Acting without thinking of the consequences result to acting irrationally and focusing your negative energy towards other people or things or worse yourself. It’s like acting for punishment which obviously is not good.

Another is knowing how you value your judgement is important. In order for you to accept yourself, you have to feel confident enough to uphold what you believe in. Ask yourself, “Is this the value I uphold? Am I comfortable with what the other person is saying or wants me to do?” If both answers to the questions is “no,” then you should speak up and tell the person why you are uncomfortable. You have to stick to your principle and at the same time be ready for reasonable compromise as well. The point is, at least you are able to express your views now and has shown confidence.

Then, you would need some support system from outside. You don’t need people who would bring you down. You have to avoid them. Support comes from people you already know. Maybe you can share your thoughts and feelings to someone you completely trust and tell that someone your goals too. That someone could be a family member or friend or even a professional. You need people to keep you focused. Remember, journey to inner healing is a long one. So you would need a friend to keep you company.

After you have acknowledged your needs. It is time to check on how you deal with various incidents that affect you. How do you react to certain events in your life now compared to how you reacted before? Have you let go or are you still burning inside? Self-reflection is one way to use to keep yourself in check. If you are still burning inside like you just want to go out and punch someone’s face, then things still need constant checking. Things do not happen overnight. Don’t worry.

Lastly, find something you enjoy doing. Discover a hobby or reconnect with friends. Go for nature walks or even enroll in meditative classes. As long as you have embarked on the first step to inner healing, the next steps would be easy. Remember, inner healing needs more time. What is essential is that you already know that you need to change. You need to stop hurting. You have accepted. You are on your road to healing and it is for the best!