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All my life I have been compared with someone prettier, skinnier, fairer, smarter and all the “ers” one could think of. I was happy with the way I am and what I had. Those people really made me feel lesser than how I really felt. (frowns)

So since then, I have worked on those things to be more than what I am. As I worked, I felt that my confidence was growing. I felt so sure of myself, thus, feeling sexy. Don’t get me wrong. Being sexy is not just for vanity. It is for self-esteem. Every one needs to be affirmed that you look good. It makes us feel good too.

Unfortunately, we get carried away with what people tell us because we want to be accepted. Well that is human nature, right? (frowns) I have so much to offer. Maybe that is why I tried my best to be someone. I tried to be the best I can be. I studied well and furthered my profession. But something was lacking. I am swimming with other people towards what should be and not what I want to be.

I realized meeting other people’s expectations soon burns us out. Diet here, smile there, exercise here and dine there. Why do I have to question what I know and feel about myself? Why do I need to meet the demands of the people around me and the society? Working hard both professional and psychological reasons eventually got too tiresome. My whole being was suffering and in turmoil but I had to show the world how composed I was. I had duties to do and tasks to fulfill. People were counting on me. I was not happy anymore.

I told myself I have to find myself soon or else I’ll fall apart and lose myself.

I found someone who can look past those things and see me for who I really am and what I can give. Actually, he found me. ( smiles) He came at the right time when my light was burning out and was ready to get extinguished. This person found me in my darkest moment and helped me pick up the pieces. I didn’t realize how broken I already was. I was just too busy with everything else that I didn’t notice I needed mending.

I found myself happy again with what I have, little as it may seem. Life became simpler but happiness was of different kind. I am not expected to be what people want me to be and most of all I brought my sexy back. (big smile) Woo hoooo!!

I realized that being sexy and appealing does not come from the clothes one wears. It does not come from how nice your hair and nail looks. Yes, I know, everyone says that. But do we feel it? Of course not. It is only when you find someone who would tell you all those things do not matter that you realize and validate what you have felt all along is true. That we should not be affected by what others believe and say. And as for nice clothes, hair and nails and yes… scents, we all know that they really add up to our feeling good about ourselves. ( wink)

In our superficial world today, with the shallow definition of “sexy,” we should not let other people affect what makes us happy. Unfortunately, haters are so contagious. Don’t you just hate it when you get carried away by them too?! (rolls eyes) What they say rubs on you and stings. Little do they realize they need “major repair” themselves. ( sheepishly smiles) Well, we need to fight our urge to get carried away by them. We still need to “sharpen” that skill of deflecting what they say and let it not affect us.

In the final analysis, we have to realize we are not something to be checked out like some commodity to be bought from a store shelf… we are beautiful people who have so much to give. We are sexy in our own right. We deserve to be happy! We have to get our sexy back !